Kelantan women are challenging societal marriage norms with power of choice

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Kelantan women are challenging societal marriage norms with power of choice

All six women, when asked if they wanted to get married, said "yes" when asked and also added "when the right time comes". (123rf photo)


KOTA BHARU - Amidst an exploration of marriage dynamics, recent statements by Kubang Kerian MP Datuk Seri Tuan Ibrahim Tuan Man back in November sparked outrage among Malaysians after proposing that polygamy as a solution to the rising number of single women in Malaysia, aiming to address societal challenges by offering an alternative perspective on marital relationships.


It is a bitter to pill to swallow but for unmarried Malaysian women - regardless divorced or not, societal scrutiny looms large, especially as they reach the age of 30. The age-old questions of financial independence, childlessness, and the ability to lead a fulfilling life unbridled by marital ties become commonplace.

These notions perpetuate a culture where unmarried individuals are perceived as different, often met with skepticism.


A quick survey of Kelantan women revealed a resounding theme of freedom of choice and hope, where these women, inspired by the spirit of independence wanted to "challenge traditional norms" - waiting for the right man to come and only then get married and build a family.

All six women, between the ages of 18 to 50, when asked if they wanted to get married, said "yes" when asked and also added "when the right time comes".


Still young, four women said their main purpose to get married was to have a family. Malaysian Higher School Certificate (STPM) student 18-year old Siti Zulaiha Cik Roslan she also dreamt of having a fairytale ending but finishing her studies now was the most crucial to ensure a bright future for her life, while 19-year old shopkeeper Fazrini Abdullah said it was always her dream to get married and have a family, and although she already had a suitor - "the time has yet to officially arrive".

Both women said they were also not pressured into marriage compared to others.